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January 20, 2012

I’ve been hesitant to write anything about the transition from 2011 to 2012.

In case you’ve forgotten, let me remind you that my life dramatically changed last year. I got married, moved across the country, started grad school…my whole life altered and I was left to try to make sense of it all.

It has been difficult, as I’ve somewhat chronicled through this little blog of mine. In some ways I’ve allowed myself to feel that difficulty, but in other ways I think I felt like it was easier to shut down parts of myself and gloss over everything that happened in order to be able to survive the shock to my system. I’ve felt muted and perhaps unable to fully be the person who I know I am, the person who I was when I wrote this blog at the end of the World Race.

These days, however, I feel myself waking back up. I feel stronger, more alive and ready to process what it means that I’m married, a California resident, and earning my Master’s degree. I have a feeling that this is going to be a journey of delving deep into my true thoughts about what has happened and allowing the Lord to speak to me concerning these matters.

The word that I’ve chosen to declare over 2012 is identity.

I never realized how much of my identity I put into the fact that I was single until I wasn’t single anymore. Before we got married, I found myself grieving my independence, freaking out over the huge life change I was approaching, and thinking how weird it was that soon I would become part of a we.

I’m still trying to figure out what it fully means that I’m married now. Sometimes I feel like I’m in the twilight zone. It feels like Ohio me still exists, where everyone there knows me as single, and they’re the ones who really truly know me. And yet the reality that I live in is that I’m in California and pretty much everyone I know here only knows me as married, Colby’s wife. And that’s what I am, absolutely, and I’m so happy and blessed to be that, but I feel like people don’t know me fully. I feel like there’s a great line dividing who I was then and who I am now.

Maybe it’s because I don’t fully know myself as who I am now. I knew myself as a single person. This new identity as one half of a whole still feels fresh. It still feels like the bigger coat that I don’t quite fit but I’m trying my best to keep up with.

I Corinthians 7:17 says,  “And don’t be wishing you were someplace else or with someone else. Where you are right now is God’s place for you. Live and obey and love and believe right there. God, not your marital status, defines your life.”

Over this year my prayer will be that I can take that verse to heart. Yes, my life has changed, how others see me has changed, but what hasn’t changed is my identity that is firmly rooted in the fact that I am God’s child. My job to live and obey and love and believe hasn’t changed one bit. I pray that He continues to reveal what that looks like in this new season of life.

8 Comments leave one →
  1. January 20, 2012 10:56 pm

    you’ve chosen a brave and powerful word… trusting BIG for this year for you…

  2. January 21, 2012 8:31 am

    …this post really resonates with me because I’ve been grappling with this issue for the last few months. I’m single (obvi) but I know I won’t be forever, so I think the LORD is trying to teach me now that my identity is *not* in my martial status (or lack thereof)…GAH. It’s hard. I’m learning a lot from you. I love you. Keep on rocking.

  3. Mama permalink
    January 23, 2012 6:37 am

    You are God’s beautiful masterpiece! You are more deliberately and intricately created than any Mozart composition…or Rembrandt painting…or Dickinson poem. And you and Colby together?

    …even more amazing.

    I love you both so much!

  4. Anna Notario permalink
    January 24, 2012 8:09 am

    GAH. How did you know I needed to read this right now? I love you.

  5. January 26, 2012 9:26 am

    Love this, and love you:) I love processing life with you right now:)

  6. January 26, 2012 2:29 pm

    i like this a lot.

  7. Victoria permalink
    January 27, 2012 8:27 pm

    Friend! I am excited for you. And I really had an awesome time hanging with you when we got our rainbows. You are amazing!

  8. Judith permalink
    January 28, 2012 9:21 pm

    I will definitely be praying for you. “Becoming” a wife is absolutely a process and it will take some time. Enjoy your new life and welcome the possibilities that it brings to you. Thank you for writing this!

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